The Book of Common Prayer says of Marriage that, "Matrimony was ordained for the hallowing of the union betwixt man and woman; for the procreation of children to be brought up in the fear and nurture of the Lord; and for the mutual society, help, and comfort, that the one ought to have of the other, in both prosperity and adversity."
That is, marriage is a gift through which we strive give ourselves fully to our spouse and to God so that our love can grow to more closely resemble the love that is shown to us by God. We do not enter marriage as perfect people, but as people praying that this new way of knowing our spouse might help us become more fully the people whom God calls us to be - loving, selfless, and self-sacrificial people.
As we know from the words we hear so often in marriages, the demands of the married life are great, "for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part". It is in living for our spouses first and not ourselves that we come to find joy in ways we may not have known before. This is why the Prayer Book also advises that marriage is, "not by any to be entered upon, nor taken In hand, unadvisedly, lightly, or wantonly; but reverently, discreetly, advisedly, soberly, and in the fear of God".
Typically we ask that all couples seeking marriage in the church undergo marriage preparation with the Rector or through another approved marriage preparation course.
If you are considering getting married in the church we would love to hear from you, please reach out to the Rector through the Parish Office to arrange a meeting.